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Nips, Tucks, Injections, Oh My!

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There are many products and procedures available to us these days in order to ensure that we are perfectly beautiful. We spend much time, effort and money improving ourselves. Despite all the “resources” at hand, we can never seem to be beautiful enough. Even famous, well-known people struggle with their image.

      Michael Jackson said his brothers call him Big Nose, Jackson 5 interview, Soul Magazine, August 19th 1970

     Michael confides in his friend, Glenda Stein, over private telephone calls about how he doesn’t like how he looks and alludes to having anorexia, 1990-1992

     Michael’s artist friend David Nordahl says Michael felt he was extremely ugly, 2010 interview

Do you think you are beautiful? By what standards do you measure your beauty? Are you defined by what you wear or how you look? Do you follow societal trends of beauty? How long does it take you to get “ready” and who are you really getting ready for? Does your inner beauty matter as much as your outer beauty?

Inner beauty includes things such as minding our manners, being kind to others, educating ourselves, strengthening our spirituality, etc. When we work on our inner beauty it enhances our outer beauty.

     “No matter how plain a woman may be, if truth and honesty are written      across her face, she will be beautiful.”  -Eleanor Roosevelt    

     “Outer beauty attracts, but inner beauty captivates.”  -Kate Angell

     “Beauty has a lot to do with character.  -Kevyn Aucoin

Here are some great tips to assist on our journey of being the most beautiful we can be:

●  Know that you’re timeless. Your beauty regimen will change over time as your body changes, but you’re still you. You don’t have to look the way you did when you were 25 to be beautiful. You just need to take good care of yourself and put your best foot forward every day.

  Seek wisdom. People who cultivate inner wisdom and live their lives abiding by wise principles will radiate beauty and blessing to everyone around them. Wisdom can never fully be attained–it’s a growing process, and there’s always something more to learn.

  Let go of bad feelings. Your feelings are important because they tell you what you like and what you don’t. However, if you hold on to bad feelings for a long time, they will poison your soul.

  Be authentic. Say what you mean. Live life according to your values. State your opinion in a courteous way. Don’t pretend to be someone else for someone else’s imagined benefit. The world needs you, just as you are.

  Express gratitude. Whether you’re grateful to a Higher Power, to your family and friends or to someone who’s courteous to you at the market, take the time to say “thanks.” Many people find that keeping a gratitude journal helps them to focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t.

No matter who you are or where you’ve been, it’s never too late to develop your inner-beauty and to bring beauty to the world around you. Being the best you can be outwardly is part of feeling beautiful. However, no one can beat the value of someone who is inwardly beautiful too.

Maybe our world would be a little bit better if we weren’t as caught up in appearances and instead focused more on our character. It is important to take time to think about what really matters in this life…We hope you have found this simple yet profound message helpful. Thanks for reading!


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Garbage In, Garbage Out?

Drama Sells…

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From reality television shows such as Love & Hip Hop, Jersey Shore, Bad Girls Club to The Real Housewives from wherever, drama is everywhere! And…we confess! It is easy for us to get caught up in the television drama, if we watch enough of it. Drama entices us to watch more and gets us “hooked”, so therefore drama sells.

With all the drama we watch on television (for those of us who have ever watched or admit to watching it, hehehe), have we lost sight of what healthy relationships look like? Whether it is with a family member or significant other, healthy relationships are still important, right? Maybe we do not agree. Maybe we feel comfortable with drama in our relationships? Maybe we think drama in relationships is the new norm? Maybe we do not realize how much watching these television shows impacts our relationships and how we interact with others? Regardless of how we feel, drama HAS infiltrated our society in a greater way and that is why we think it is important to reevaluate what healthy relationships really look like…

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We think it is important for us to start from the beginning…what exactly does the word relationship mean? The definition of a relationship is, “The way in which two or more people are connected, or the state of being connected”. We all have a desire to be connected to others, right? We all have a desire to be loved and accepted, right? Did you know that there are wonderful benefits to having relationships? According to the December 2010 issue of Harvard Women’s Health Watch, “People who have satisfying relationships have been shown to be happier, have fewer health problems, and live longer. In contrast, having few social ties is associated with depression, cognitive decline, and premature death”.

While it is important to understand that no person or relationship is perfect, there are ways to ensure that our relationships are as healthy as possible. Important qualities of healthy relationships include respect, communication, understanding, supportive, patience, compromise, trust, honesty, forgiveness, committed, etc. Here are some examples of how some of these qualities play out in relationships:

• Speak Up. In a healthy relationship, if something is bothering you, it’s best to talk about it instead of holding it in.
• Respect Your Partner. Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value. Let your significant other know you are making an effort to keep their ideas in mind. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships.
• Compromise. Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way.
• Be Supportive. Offer reassurance and encouragement to your partner. Also, let your partner know when you need their support. Healthy relationships are about building each other up, not putting each other down.
• Respect Each Other’s Privacy. Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to share everything and constantly be together. Healthy relationships require space.

Creating boundaries is a good way to keep your relationship healthy and secure. By setting boundaries together, you can both have a deeper understanding of the type of relationship that you and your partner want. Boundaries are not meant to make you feel trapped or like you’re “walking on eggshells.” Creating boundaries is not a sign of secrecy or distrust — it’s an expression of what makes you feel comfortable and what you would like or not like to happen within the relationship. Remember, healthy boundaries shouldn’t restrict your ability to:

Go out with your friends without your partner.
Participate in activities and hobbies you like.
Not have to share passwords to your email, social media accounts or phone.
Respect each other’s individual likes and needs.

Even healthy relationships can use a boost now and then. You may need a boost if you feel disconnected from your partner or like the relationship has gotten stale. If so, find a fun, simple activity you both enjoy, like going on a walk, and talk about the reasons why you want to be in the relationship.

It is important to surround yourself with relationships that accept you for who you are and with those who love you unconditionally. Relationships are beautiful and so are you! Know that you deserve wonderful relationships and you deserve to be treated with respect. Relationships take time to build upon, but given the proper qualities, relationships can be one of the most beautiful things we experience in this life…

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Justin Bieber: Lover or Fighter?

As most of us know Justin Bieber is a phenomenon when it comes to being in the media and the entertainment world. Many people, mostly girls, who are “BELIEBERS” can’t see Justin as a violent young man. Is it really hard to believe that such a successful young role model may have anger issues? With a new hit out “Boyfriend”, Justin Bieber again lays out his smooth moves with the ladies now that he is a grown man, which makes it hard for his fans to “Belieb” that he is being accused of being physically violent.

Recently, Justin Bieber has been allegedly accused of being in a fight with a paparazzi. Beiber is wanted for questioning by Los Angeles County Sheriff’s investigators after a photographer complained of being roughed up by the pop star at a shopping center in Calabasas, California.

According to witnesses, the photographer, Jose Sarros, was blocking Justin’s car as he was trying to leave with girlfriend Selena Gomez. Sarros told the Sheriff’s deputies that Justin got upset and hit him in the face. Sheriff’s say the photographer called 911 and complained of pain to his chest. Sheriff’s say the photographer was taken to a hospital where he was treated and released.

So what’s next for Justin Bieber? Well there has been an updated report on this alleged scuffle. A report was filed by Jose Sarros and now the case  is headed to the Los Angeles County District Attorney. Police have referred the case to prosecutors, which is apparently standard procedure for high-profile cases. If Justin Bieber is charged and convicted, he could face up to six months in jail.


Was Justin Bieber trying to make a point with this recent alleged fight that he had with the photographer? Or was it all for media? Could his “new” friends have an influence on him as well to “man up”?

Speaking of “new” friends, last month, Bieber was spotted supporting a well known boxer, Floyd Mayweather, who has been in the media for his violent behavior of Domestic Violence. Is this a positive approach for Bieber or is he exploring unknown territory? A recent article on the Huff Post had this to say:

It looks like Justin Bieber hangs with a tough crowd. The impressionable teen made a very public appearance by the side of fighter Floyd Mayweather before the boxer’s highly anticipated match against Miguel Cotto. The 18-year-old “Never Say Never” singer, along with rapper 50 Cent, walked in with Mayweather’s championship belts. Another member of Mayweather’s crew, Lil Wayne, was also ringside. Mayweather…50 Cent…Lil Wayne… Justin Bieber… One of these things is not like the others. Many fans of the squeaky-clean singer were surprised to see him hanging with the noted band of thugs, all of whom have well-documented arrest records. Mayweather himself starts a jail sentence for domestic violence on June 1. According to TMZ, the 35-year-old boxer is a Belieber who has taken the “Boyfriend” crooner under his wing. Despite being found guilty of pounding on his girlfriend, Bieber thinks that his “mentor” is “misunderstood.” Mayweather apparently approached Bieber around four months ago and invited him to be a part of his posse. The two first connected after Mayweather watched Bieber’s bio Never Say Never and reached out to Bieber’s peeps. Insiders say Mayweather wanted to mentor the singer, who also happens to be a die-hard boxing fan. Bieber sees Mayweather as a “hard-working and clean-cut guy.”

Whatever Justin Biebers reasons are to promote himself with his “new” posse or why he even was involved in a fight, it still doesn’t make it right for anyone to use violence as the answer to any situation. Many girls would want Justin Bieber to be their “Boyfriend”, as he quotes in his new single:

If I was your boyfriend, never let you go
Keep you on my arm girl you’d never be alone
I can be a gentleman, anything you want
If I was your boyfriend, I’d never let you go, I’d never let you go

Yes, we all have seen Bieber be a gentlemen, but is he trying to portray an image that might hurt him in the long run?





Do you think Justin Bieber deserves to get into trouble for this or was it all a misunderstanding?

Who or what is KONY 2012?

OK! A lot of people have been asking WHO or WHAT is KONY 2012? With 84,077,445 hits and counting and  over 1.3 million likes, KONY 2012 is becoming or should I say IS a world-wide phenomenon! KONY 2012 is a documentary which has spurred a virtual movement to bring one man, Joseph Kony, to justice.

The #KONY2012 and #StopKony hash tags has been trending on Twitter and the movement has already reached millions. If you haven’t seen the video or if you don’t know who Kony is, then educate yourself a little.

The documentary, KONY 2012, was produced by a group called Invisible Children. Filmmakers followed around a former child soldier named Jacob from Uganda. The film’s message is simple, to make the name Joseph Kony infamous, “not to celebrate him, but to raise support for his arrest and set a precedent for international justice”.

Kony is the leader of a group called the Lord’s Resistance Army (LRA) in central Africa. The LRA is widely credited with kidnapping over 30,000 children and forcing them to be soldiers or sex slaves.

Kony was indicted in 2005 for war crimes by an International Court but has eluded capture.

Together we can put an end to this monster’s heinous crimes against humanity. If you want to take a STAND and have your VOICE heard, please sign the pledge to help bring Kony to justice in 2012 @  We CAN make a difference. #KONY2012

Hey Tweeters: Rape is Not a Joke!

[Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault]

Social media, like everything else, has a good side… and a bad side. The idea that social media can bring people together to talk about a subject is wonderful IF the subject is a positive one. Unfortunately, that is not always the case.

During the weekend, a horrible hashtag was the number one trending topic worldwide. The hashtag? #ItAintRapeIf.

We’re not even going to mention some of the hurtful jokes people were coming up with to tag along with this trend, but it was a cruel reminder that we have a long way to go before everyone realizes the seriousness of an assault.

Rape is not a joke. Nearly 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men in the United Sates has be raped at some time in their lives. 80% of female victims of rape experienced their first rape before the age of 25. This is serious stuff and it affects more people than we think. People that we know.

A victim faces so many obstacles to reporting after being assaulted. Self-blame is a huge reason… not knowing that it is never the victim’s fault. Many of the trending topic responses we saw on twitter were victim blaming. The reality is that there is NO EXCUSE for rape. It is NOT the victim’s fault and nothing anybody does or says justifies an assault.

It is about absolute, definitive, vocal, undeniable CONSENT from someone who is well within their senses. Without consent, it is an assault.

Fortunately, there were some people who stood up for what they thought was right and fought back with the hashtag #RapeIsntAJoke. As a community, we need to stand up and put an end to the victim blaming, the rape jokes and the excuses. Victims need our full support.

Jonah Mowry’s Powerful Message

Hello IStanders!

We came across this video and just had to share! Here is Jonah Mowry and in this powerful video he tells his story on being bullied- a feeling we know MANY others are going through. There are many celebrities sending Jonah their support via twitter including Perez Hilton, Lady Gaga, Amanda Bynes, Ricky Martin, Paula Abdul and many others.

Recently, there have been rumors that Jonah lied in his video, but regardless, the video speaks for itself. Whether the rumors are true or not doesn’t really matter. Afterall, the message is clear: Stop bullying now!

What do you stand for?