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Nips, Tucks, Injections, Oh My!

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There are many products and procedures available to us these days in order to ensure that we are perfectly beautiful. We spend much time, effort and money improving ourselves. Despite all the “resources” at hand, we can never seem to be beautiful enough. Even famous, well-known people struggle with their image.

      Michael Jackson said his brothers call him Big Nose, Jackson 5 interview, Soul Magazine, August 19th 1970

     Michael confides in his friend, Glenda Stein, over private telephone calls about how he doesn’t like how he looks and alludes to having anorexia, 1990-1992

     Michael’s artist friend David Nordahl says Michael felt he was extremely ugly, 2010 interview

Do you think you are beautiful? By what standards do you measure your beauty? Are you defined by what you wear or how you look? Do you follow societal trends of beauty? How long does it take you to get “ready” and who are you really getting ready for? Does your inner beauty matter as much as your outer beauty?

Inner beauty includes things such as minding our manners, being kind to others, educating ourselves, strengthening our spirituality, etc. When we work on our inner beauty it enhances our outer beauty.

     “No matter how plain a woman may be, if truth and honesty are written      across her face, she will be beautiful.”  -Eleanor Roosevelt    

     “Outer beauty attracts, but inner beauty captivates.”  -Kate Angell

     “Beauty has a lot to do with character.  -Kevyn Aucoin

Here are some great tips to assist on our journey of being the most beautiful we can be:

●  Know that you’re timeless. Your beauty regimen will change over time as your body changes, but you’re still you. You don’t have to look the way you did when you were 25 to be beautiful. You just need to take good care of yourself and put your best foot forward every day.

  Seek wisdom. People who cultivate inner wisdom and live their lives abiding by wise principles will radiate beauty and blessing to everyone around them. Wisdom can never fully be attained–it’s a growing process, and there’s always something more to learn.

  Let go of bad feelings. Your feelings are important because they tell you what you like and what you don’t. However, if you hold on to bad feelings for a long time, they will poison your soul.

  Be authentic. Say what you mean. Live life according to your values. State your opinion in a courteous way. Don’t pretend to be someone else for someone else’s imagined benefit. The world needs you, just as you are.

  Express gratitude. Whether you’re grateful to a Higher Power, to your family and friends or to someone who’s courteous to you at the market, take the time to say “thanks.” Many people find that keeping a gratitude journal helps them to focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t.

No matter who you are or where you’ve been, it’s never too late to develop your inner-beauty and to bring beauty to the world around you. Being the best you can be outwardly is part of feeling beautiful. However, no one can beat the value of someone who is inwardly beautiful too.

Maybe our world would be a little bit better if we weren’t as caught up in appearances and instead focused more on our character. It is important to take time to think about what really matters in this life…We hope you have found this simple yet profound message helpful. Thanks for reading!


                                                                                        Team Prevention

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Garbage In, Garbage Out?

Drama Sells…

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From reality television shows such as Love & Hip Hop, Jersey Shore, Bad Girls Club to The Real Housewives from wherever, drama is everywhere! And…we confess! It is easy for us to get caught up in the television drama, if we watch enough of it. Drama entices us to watch more and gets us “hooked”, so therefore drama sells.

With all the drama we watch on television (for those of us who have ever watched or admit to watching it, hehehe), have we lost sight of what healthy relationships look like? Whether it is with a family member or significant other, healthy relationships are still important, right? Maybe we do not agree. Maybe we feel comfortable with drama in our relationships? Maybe we think drama in relationships is the new norm? Maybe we do not realize how much watching these television shows impacts our relationships and how we interact with others? Regardless of how we feel, drama HAS infiltrated our society in a greater way and that is why we think it is important to reevaluate what healthy relationships really look like…

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We think it is important for us to start from the beginning…what exactly does the word relationship mean? The definition of a relationship is, “The way in which two or more people are connected, or the state of being connected”. We all have a desire to be connected to others, right? We all have a desire to be loved and accepted, right? Did you know that there are wonderful benefits to having relationships? According to the December 2010 issue of Harvard Women’s Health Watch, “People who have satisfying relationships have been shown to be happier, have fewer health problems, and live longer. In contrast, having few social ties is associated with depression, cognitive decline, and premature death”.

While it is important to understand that no person or relationship is perfect, there are ways to ensure that our relationships are as healthy as possible. Important qualities of healthy relationships include respect, communication, understanding, supportive, patience, compromise, trust, honesty, forgiveness, committed, etc. Here are some examples of how some of these qualities play out in relationships:

• Speak Up. In a healthy relationship, if something is bothering you, it’s best to talk about it instead of holding it in.
• Respect Your Partner. Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value. Let your significant other know you are making an effort to keep their ideas in mind. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships.
• Compromise. Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way.
• Be Supportive. Offer reassurance and encouragement to your partner. Also, let your partner know when you need their support. Healthy relationships are about building each other up, not putting each other down.
• Respect Each Other’s Privacy. Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to share everything and constantly be together. Healthy relationships require space.

Creating boundaries is a good way to keep your relationship healthy and secure. By setting boundaries together, you can both have a deeper understanding of the type of relationship that you and your partner want. Boundaries are not meant to make you feel trapped or like you’re “walking on eggshells.” Creating boundaries is not a sign of secrecy or distrust — it’s an expression of what makes you feel comfortable and what you would like or not like to happen within the relationship. Remember, healthy boundaries shouldn’t restrict your ability to:

Go out with your friends without your partner.
Participate in activities and hobbies you like.
Not have to share passwords to your email, social media accounts or phone.
Respect each other’s individual likes and needs.

Even healthy relationships can use a boost now and then. You may need a boost if you feel disconnected from your partner or like the relationship has gotten stale. If so, find a fun, simple activity you both enjoy, like going on a walk, and talk about the reasons why you want to be in the relationship.

It is important to surround yourself with relationships that accept you for who you are and with those who love you unconditionally. Relationships are beautiful and so are you! Know that you deserve wonderful relationships and you deserve to be treated with respect. Relationships take time to build upon, but given the proper qualities, relationships can be one of the most beautiful things we experience in this life…

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                                                                                               Thanks for reading!
                                                                                          Team Prevention